I have an important question to ask about a very difficult situation. Given that my husband's business has seriously declined, he recently won a revised settlement with his ex-wife that reduced her monthly stipend from £750 to £250 per month. We helped her to get an interest only mortgage and basically, agreed to pay it. At the hearing the judge said that if they can't work this out among themselves, the case will need to go to a 2 1/2 hr trial. He also said that obviously, the problem is the she needs money, he doesn't have any money, and that the law can't make a man pay what he doesn't have.
We had a great deal of compassion and offered her £250 to pay her mortgage so she doesn't loose her house even though we still have a £979 per month negative cash flow after that reduction. We also offered her a free cruise that I had purchased, since now she won't be able to afford to go on holiday.
We recently discovered that my husband's step-father who hasn't spoken to him since his mother left him 2 years ago emailed my two stepdaughters, badmouthing their father/my husband. Obviously, he was very hurt and angry. He called her, demanding an apology by noontime for this OR they WILL go to trial on August 28th and she may get nothing.
What do you think is the spiritual answer here? We believe in compassion and give and receive and all that but we don't think it is spiritual to let yourself be abused either. I'd appreciate an opinion on this!