Grieving and Gathering (borrowed from the "Forum" discussion board)


Recently, a baby died while locked inside his father's car. People are bringing flowers to the parking space where it happened, right outside my window at work. Others have come to stand at the edge of the space in front of the flowers. Is the placing of flowers at this particular place and coming to where the baby died of any use to his soul? Is coming to the site be of any use to his parents who are grieving?

-AF in CA-


What a tragic incident. My heart goes out to the child's parents. With the love of family and friends—and their ability to surrender to a higher power—I hope that they will eventually be able to forgive themselves. Would that there were the patriarchal God that many perceive, the one with the long gray beard who sits in judgment. “He” would be far more loving and forgiving than we tend to be with ourselves.

Back to your question: it is interesting to contemplate whether people are drawn to energy vortexes on which to build their churches, cathedrals and synagogues, or whether those locations have become powerful places because people have congregated there over time, coming together with the powerful emotions of hope and faith. It’s a bit of the chicken-or-the-egg idea.

I believe that wherever people gather with deep emotion, open hearts and higher intentions, powerful energy becomes focused and prayers are heard. It is as if their thoughts and prayers get a synergistic boost that most certainly helps propel a soul further along its journey. It has been said that John F. Kennedy barely lost consciousness when he passed, a result of all the prayers that were said for him.

One would hope that the baby’s parents are certain to feel the love from those who gather at the site and will embrace the gesture as a ceremonious one that is honoring the life of their child.